Practice Tantric Sex with Masturbation

If you are interested in Tantra and crave the feeling of sexual energy running through your body, you don’t need to wait for a partner.  If there is one thing that Tantra teaches us it is that we are whole, we are all connected, we are all one.  That, to me, means that I already have everything I need all on my own.

 When I first started practicing Tantra, I didn’t know the word Tantra, I didn’t know there was a name, I didn’t label it, I simply tuned in to my body and recognized where and how I felt pleasure and then I explored that.  Back then, it very often was through masturbation.

The practice I am referring to is simply moving sexual energy out of the pelvis and into the rest of the body.

 Most people experience arousal (1st chakra), then possibly allow that to spill over into the 2nd chakra, (typically not even purposefully), where they feel desire.. but then they either have sex or masturbate and release the energy.  That is a shame. Instead, I encourage you to try pulling that energy into the belly. If you manage to get it into the belly, try pulling up even further, into the heart, then the throat, then the 3rd eye, and into the crown.

 This can take months or years of practice, even during sessions with me, few of my clients are able to receive the energy into the 3rd eye or crown. When they do, it is profound. This requires a level of openness that few people have.  But most can get into the level of the throat within a couple of sessions and it is very powerful.

If you can’t get to a session, don’t worry, you can do this on your own. Instead of masturbating with ejaculation as a goal, slow down and tune in to the pleasure, with the goal of prolonging that pleasure.  As you become aroused and feel the build in the 1st chakra, consciously visualize pulling that energy up into the lower belly.  Here you will likely feel desire. Try to go a little further, into the solar plexus, where you may experience confidence and personal power. Start there and really try to master those shifts.  From there, you can try pulling the energy into the heart, where you may feel connection and/or passion. When the energy gets to the throat allow yourself to full express your pleasure.

 Tantric Massage can help your body learn the path and train you to easily move that energy.

Photo credit: Ella Valhalla Boudoir