How Many Years of Sex Life Do You Have Left?

(At the time that I wrote this it was immediately after a session I had, but it is being posted months after.)

I had a session earlier tonight that prompted this post. It was not unlike tons of conversations I have had where clients tell me about their "sexual issues” and then follow up with “I'm older now” or “probably age-related” and I find out they are 40-45-50. Seriously? Do you know how much sex life you have left at age 50? 25 to 35 years! Yes, I am serious here. Your voice is powerful and your belief that your sexual dysfunction and dissatisfaction is normal after 40 is total bullshit.

 I have clients that are 75 and older and I promise you they are not surrendering their sex lives. Instead, they are seeking to enhance it (seeing me) Tonight was even a more profound what the fuck moment because he was not only young at age 50, he was fit, fun, attractive, and had a great physical body. Look, I see a lot of naked bodies in my business and I have seen a whole heck of a lot in my life. I am the right person to judge.

This client is dealing with something, he is sad, separated, and perhaps cannot see the potential, but this worries me.

There is no reason to give up your sex life because you hit a number. And as a side note, he also had no sexual dysfunction at all. Our thoughts are powerful! Had he convinced himself that he had this problem? I don't know.  Would he have continued to believe that or allow it to be worse had I not helped him see otherwise? I don't know.  

Check in with yourself and double-check the stories you tell yourself because sometimes that is all it takes to correct them. If you are ready for solutions instead of surrender, I can help. Bondage can be whatever you and your partner(s) make it.