Breakthroughs for impotence, low libido, sexual repression…
There is a lot of energy in desire. Desire is the impetus of life.
There is life-force energy in desire and that energy moves us forward in life.
Repressed desires trap that energy and will eventually form blockages. Somewhere inside each of us lies the yearning to release that blocked energy, and the need to feel the natural flow of our lives.
If you feel you are or would be judged because of your desires, you probably already began to judge yourself and hide your desires. When this happens we create shadows out of them, only entering into them in secret or when we are in an altered state.
When energy is cut off from our consciousness, it can create a split internally. Many people end up with two personas, the public face that we show and the secret self that we feel the need to hide.
Over time this often manifests physically, causing a number of sexual issues for both men and women including, but not limited to erectile dysfunction, pain during sex, low libido, inability to ejaculate, premature ejaculation, inability to orgasm and more. Schedule a consultation to find out if I can help.
Tantra and Erectile Dysfunction
What causes of ED can be helped through Tantra?
Health and lifestyle factors causing erectile dysfunction:
There are some medical conditions and lifestyle choices which affect erectile health, including stress, high blood pressure, heart conditions, obesity, diabetes, and some prescribed medications, plus recreational drugs, smoking, and heavy drinking. It’s important to have a medical check-up before booking a tantric healing session.
In addition I have seen that many ED issues form over time in connection to the shadows we have created around our desires. These are the fantasies and thoughts that we are hiding from others in our lives for fear of judgment, both real and perceived.
I will teach you to get of your mind and into your senses. You will learn to move energy with your consciousness. You learn to fill your body with your sexual energy, over and over again, increasing your arousal each time, until eventually you learn to have a full body experience.
Shame and Fear of Failure:
Most of us know well the feelings of apprehension and anxiety that can come up in the build up to sex. For men who have dealt with ED, the autonomic nervous system may recall experiences of past ‘failure’ at the point of needing, or losing an erection, which then triggers an involuntary stress response in the body which interferes with the erection process.
Difficulty in getting an erection can be followed by feelings of shame, inadequacy, and guilt about not being able to fully satisfy a partner. This can really affect a man’s sex life, and sense of sexual self.
It is possible to retrain the body’s involuntary response during arousal, and Tantra can help.
Pornography:
Porn addiction can interfere with erection. Eventually screen sex can affect the neuro pathways from the brain to the genital area, desensitizing sexual responses during 'live' sex with a partner.
Cultural conditioning:
I’ve met many men who’ve grown up with societal or cultural upbringing around sexuality (eg catholic education), and feel shame in even thinking about their desires, much less expressing them. I can help work through this conditioning.
For clients who’ve experienced any significant sexual, physical or emotional trauma, I would recommend you have additional professional support in place before you come for a session.
Releasing emotional blockages that affect ED:
It’s common for negative emotional experiences, even trauma, to be held in the cellular memory of the body. One very common one is being shamed for sexual behaviors both as a young person and as an adult.
The body is intelligent and stores these experiences until a point in time when it feels safe to express and process them. This is an area that I can work through with you very successfully.
What is involved?
Increasing blood flow to through the body:
The use of touch done strategically first alongside talk therapy, then alongside visualization and meditation will move the sexual energy through the body and over time may create new neuropathways in the brain and body and teach you to do this on your own.
Homework:
The session will include elements of education and practices to do at home each week. In Tantra there’s lots more to sexual intimacy than penetration. To get the best results, like with every goal in life, it will require some level of attention on a regular basis, not just once per week or only when you are with me.
How long will it take?
This type of work cannot be done in one or two sessions. I know that some practitioners will do one or two 5 or 6 hour session, I will not do that. It takes time to create trust and connection between us for the best result and to work through practices at home before moving to the next step. Part of the reason that I require the consultation first is to be sure we are on the same page with expectation of the process.
I will guide you through a progressive process beginning with talking through past experiences, fears, anxieties, and desires. Quite often this is the first opportunity you have to talk through your desires, the length of time and methods used to process this will vary and be dependant upon my read of your energy around the desire as we work through them.
We talk through intentions, consent, boundaries and expectations at the beginning of each session.
I use a variety of practices: breathwork, energy work, guided meditation, and visualization as well as touch and bodywork.
The session…
The session will usually start with some talk, followed by some basic energy work to balance the main energy systems and clear stress from the week. Then I will do some exercise to connect our energy. This exercise can vary from session to session. I am highly intuitive so I will get much of our direction through meditation just before or intuitively as the session begins. The approach depends on how open you are on that day. If I sense intuitively that your energy is rejecting the connection or holding back, we will not force it.
Boundaries may change from session to session. If today you are open to touch, but next week you aren’t, that is part of the process. Consent is always revocable and renegotiable.